Internet Backs Man Who Rejected Woman for Being Too Short

A woman has been accused of double standards after reacting with fury to a prospective date who told her she was too short for him.

When it comes to dating, height matters.

A 2014 study conducted by researchers from Rice University and the University of North Texas analyzed data from 470 women's personal dating ads in the U.S and showed that 49 percent specified that they were looking to date only men that were taller than them.

The study also saw 131 female volunteers answer a series of open-ended questions on dating as part of an online survey. According to the results, 55 percent said they would only date men taller than them.

By contrast, 13 percent of men in the first part of the study listed height as an important consideration with 37 percent stating a preference for short partners in the second part of the research.

The numbers would suggest women aren't especially eager to date short partners but they aren't necessarily alone in that respect.

In a post shared to Reddit by life__navigator, a man shared a recent exchange with a woman he matched with on a dating app whom he ended up brushing off after determining there was "too much height difference" between them.

When the man had first revealed to the woman he was "6' 3" (191 cms)" she was delighted. "That's the perfect height for a guy," she responded, according to a screenshot of what is purported to be a text exchange between the pair. "I'm 5' 1" and petite," she wrote back.

Unfortunately for her, he quickly determined that the height difference would be too much. "Oops," he wrote. "That's too much height difference I guess. Don't think it would work out, sorry."

She reacted with fury. "So you're rejecting me because of my height? The audacity." The man tried to defend his stance, telling her: "We all have our preferences. Even your profile bio says 6ft and above." At this point, the woman began throwing insults at the man, branding him an "incel" and accusing him of having a "small d***"

"How's it different from you having a height requirement?" he asked. "I'm a woman," she fired back. "So it's not the same." The exchange ended abruptly after that but the discussion has raged on over on Reddit, where the post has amassed over 7,700 comments.

"Sounds like he missed out on a classy lady," Strength-Speed wrote.
Trimungasoid agreed, accusing the woman of exhibiting "double standards" in her response. "He dodged a bullet," they said. "She seems pretty s*****."

For some users like OdinGray, the fact the woman had a height requirement to begin with was a big turn-off. "I'm 6' 2", but when I used Tinder, anyone with a 'height requirement' was an instant no," they wrote. "Pretty big red flag, even if I am 'tall enough.'"

Loveroffitchicks was of a similar mindset, writing: "Who the hell swipes right on someone who has a height requirement in their bio? I'm 6'4 but I instantly left swipe those entitled b*****s."

Others appeared eager to highlight the realities of being part of a tall man/short woman couple. "I don't understand the obsession with such large height differences, it makes things really awkward," Yeetuslafeetus commented. "Me and my partner are about 8 inches apart and that's already fairly difficult."

Troglodyte_terrorist went further, responding: "Lugging around a giant 7 month old when you marry a tall person really is not a joke. Our kid has been the height of twice his age his entire life. Now, at age 1.5, he is wearing clothes for 4 year olds."

TheStonkmanCometh, meanwhile, questioned the woman's motives for wanting a tall partner. "Has nothing to do with personal preference and everything to do with ego," they wrote. "This girl sees a tall man as an object that she can show off to other women. She just wants a tall man to boost her self worth."

The reasons may be more complicated than that though. According to the data gathered as part of the study from Rice University and the University of North Texas, the dominant reasons females cited for preferring a tall partner centered around the ideas of protection and femininity.

One woman, who is 5' 3", told researchers: "As the girl, I like to feel delicate and secure at the same time. Something just feels weird in thinking about looking 'down' into my man's eyes.

"There is also something to be said about being able to wear shoes with high heels and still being shorter. I also want to be able to hug him with my arms reaching up and around his neck."

Newsweek has contacted the original poster for comment.

Back in November, a woman earned viral fame on TikTok after deducing a man claiming to be 6 feet tall was, in fact, significantly shorter than he said, by analyzing his photos on social media.

Another woman drew criticism after sharing her strict set of rules for a first date.

A tall man hugging a short woman.
Stock image of a tall man and a shorter woman. A woman was left irked after a prospective date rejected her for being too short. Grigorev_Vladimir/Getty

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